How to Talk to Guys by Stephanie May Wilson
Non-fiction. 83 Pages. 4 Stars
Synopsis:
You finally bit the bullet and downloaded that dating app—you even connected with someone you may be interested in.
Or, maybe your best friend set you up with her cousin and you just introduced yourself over text.
Maybe you met your dream guy at church, and you’re looking for any excuse to talk with him.
Or, maybe you’re about to go on a first date with a guy you just met.⠀⠀⠀
No matter which situation you find yourself in, you’re starting something new with someone new. You’re excited and nervous as you introduce yourself—things seem to be going pretty well!⠀⠀⠀⠀
But then you hit a wall. The small talk is over, so what are you supposed to say next?⠀⠀
Somehow (and you’re not sure how!), you’re supposed to calm your nerves enough to carry on a conversation that will tell you all of the information you need to know: Is he a good fit for you? Do you have things in common? Does he share the same faith? Is there a future for you together?
Oh, and you’re also trying to stand out from every other girl and be funny, smart, and attractive—all at the same time (often, via text!).⠀⠀⠀
“Check, please!” ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Friend, if this is enough to make you want to throw in the towel, know that you are so not alone.
This is hard and totally daunting . . . unless you have a plan. And that’s exactly what you’re holding in your hands right now.
In this pocket-sized dating guide, you’ll find a script of conversation-starting questions that will make all of these scenarios so much easier.
They’ll help you feel more prepared and less nervous as you talk to a guy you like. They’ll help you stand out as you chat online, and they’ll help the conversations flow on those first few dates. More than anything, they’ll help you have fun.
You got this, friend! You can totally do this, and this book will show you how!
This guide will help you…
– Confidently strike up a conversation with the cute guy at the coffee shop (instead of blushing, and avoiding his gaze at all costs!)
– Start a great conversation with the guy you’ve been wanting to get to know (and keep the conversation going!)
– Feel more comfortable and confident (and avoid those awkward silences!)
– Get to know the guy you’re talking to on a deeper level (Do you have things in common? Is this your person? Do you have a future together? These questions will help you figure that out!)
– Talk about your faith (and ask about his!) without feeling weird or like you’re putting him on the spot.
– Relax, open up. and let your personality shine!
– And more!
My Review:
I enjoy Stephanie’s work quite a bit. I saw this on Amazon and figured I’d give it a shot, too.
The book was a super quick read, but it has her trademark encouragement and inspiration. She’s really good at breaking down the intimidation factor, both between author and reader and between you and talking to guys.
The book is well organized and full of some useful tips, mindset reminders, and lots of great conversation starting questions. I could have read the whole thing in less than an hour, but I broke it into two evenings before bed. There’s space for you to answer the four prompts she gives you, which tie into her conversational questions.
There’s also a preview of her Every Single Moment: 100 Powerful Prayers to Savor the Present and Prepare for the Future journal that takes up the last third or so of the book. She presents seven prompts and room to write from that book. I’m actually really glad this is here because I’ve been curious what that journal was like and this gave me just what I needed to better understand it.
All in all, the little booklet reads like a quick companion guide with some short, though still effective, words of wisdom and a variety of questions for you to choose from, organized by level of depth so you can build from never-met-the-guy to a deeper understanding of who he is.
I’d recommend the read if you enjoy Stephanie’s work (her podcast or other books or online courses). It’s not an in-depth manual or anything, but it isn’t meant to be. It’s a tool to help you prepare to exercise your courage and get to know someone!